Managing your emotions

This has been coming up in quite a few of my recent sessions. What do I start doing with all these emotions? The more aware that you become in your healing and growing journey - the more you are going to experience. Some of these emotions are going to be so far removed from what you’ve typically experienced - that they are going to be coming with the weight of your entire existence- seeing every moment where you experienced the same feeling but didn’t attribute it to an emotion nor did you know how to respond or react to the feeling.

These big emotions are difficult to navigate and my best piece of advice is to first acknowledge the feeling. Lets use anger for example - you start thinking about the way someone treated you in your current present reality and you become angry- and then it starts triggering a chain reaction- linking together every time you’ve felt this way and it’s as if a light bulb goes off- you’re seeing a pattern, you’re understanding a pattern, you’re in the middle of a pattern- but you’re still feeling angry and now its compounded in such a way that you’re angry at yourself and angry at every person who’s been a part of this pattern.

Deep breath. Now that we acknowledged the emotion, lets just sit with it. Here is the part that most people do their best to avoid. Just sitting with the emotion is difficult. But here is one of the best self help tools out there. If you don’t like the way it makes you feel, if you don’t like the way anger shows up in your physical body, if you don’t want to experience that again- the best way is to actually experience it. Understand what it feels like.

This has another benefit to it as well- while sitting with the emotion ((and that may mean canceling plans and taking some one on one time for yourself)) you’ll also be able to understand how the emotions shows up for you. What does your breathing feel like? How about your stomach- what’s that doing? Your head- is there a headache? Are you bouncing your legs or clenching your fists? By noticing how your physical body is communicating you’re feeling of anger to you- you are learning to communicate with yourself. These are tell tale signs that your physical body has that will be preemptive to you fully getting into the anger feeling that you no longer want to experience. By learning ourselves, we find that we have the greatest insight into our everyday reality.

So the next time you’re feeling something that you don’t like. Acknowledge it and learn from it. The more we understand- the more we understand.

Spread Love & light xo- Chris