When does the balance start?

Love is finding the balance between giving and giving too much. It’s a delicate dance between being open and understanding and having a lot of boundaries. Returning to center helps each and every time. Returning to yourself to who you are.

I find it painfully refreshing - and I say painful because it’s way more of a chore than I’d like it to be- but ever so refreshing to come back to myself and then add and take away as is necessary. Once you become - not just ok- happy with yourself and your own energy, it makes all else in the world either align or feel out of alignment. This can be a hard realization and may need to happen time and time again before the actual lesson that’s being learned is heard.

Letting go of outcomes has been such a struggle for me. I’m a long term planner - and by long term I’m almost into my next life. I like to be able to use my skills to choose the most fun route to get me where I’m going. And one of my major faults is that I’d like to choose the people traveling that route with me- which isn’t my decision to make. I can choose who I’d like around me, but the control of them actually being there is left to fate and free will.

The balance with boundaries doesn’t happen right away, sometimes we have to get through the rough and tough feelings driven by ego (I’m working on it) so you can see that not everything is about you. When you set a boundary or when you’re met with a boundary , it’s to keep the peace, to keep the balance and for both parties involved to continue to make the choice to move forward.

Creating boundaries is love, without the boundary - you’d either continue the same situation or decide not to. The boundaries are in place, or attempted to be in place for the greater good - the whole.

When you are operating in your highest energy it makes it so much easier for that energy to spread, by you creating a boundary you are making it easier for the people watching you and looking up to you to create a boundary.

The fun thing with boundaries is you can choose to listen, respond and change your actions - or at least attempt to, or you can not. We all have free will and can make changes at our own pace. We all learn and grow (or choose not to) at our own pace.

I’ve recently had a one on one session with a lovely woman who was at her wits end being pulled in so many directions, a fellow empath who was helping (in her mind) quite a few negative people - who were leaving her feeling drained and down. She was unravelling and not able to see the cause. My recommendation - my subconscious bridge ( her energy interacting with me , so that I can communicate it back to her) was to take a break from everyone. Return to center and then see how you feel. It was once she pulled back, once she momentarily stepped away that she could see how much damage was being done to herself- when she thought she was helping.

The balance is important. Knowing yourself is important. Knowing what keeps you operating at loving , positive level is important.

It’ll all come together. One day at a time.

-xo Chris