Boundaries are love

Self love and respect. I am learning and growing everyday. Some days are way easier than others. As September starts our new theme is Boundaries are Love. As an empath energetic boundaries are incredibly important. We’ve talked able this in the past - and the empath guide I’ve created “Energy Vampires? Reclaiming light” ((Available on Amazon)) goes through some real time information and responses. The energy recovery process, I found is one of the best ways that I can set boundaries. If it requires me to pause- to take a break from my normal routines, to take a break from the things I want to do in order for me to energetically recover- than it might take a little more discernment to look at the person , place or thing and decide if it’s something that is worth the amount of recovery it’s going to require.

Now that’s energetic. There is also all of the other boundaries that apply personally to life. Saying No is a big one. Here it can come as a response to you- well just not wanting to. No is an ok answer. No, just because you don’t feel like it, no because you’re having a self care day (doing whatever you want to do) no because- just because. A good point to remember here is that you don’t need to give an excuse either. You can simply say no and when questioned as to why- say whatever you want. I just can’t is a perfect response, I’m busy.

Boundaries involving other people specifically those close to you are a difficult journey to be on. As boundaries are set it’s a matter of respect and love for those around you to acknowledge them and to adhere to them. This aspect becomes slightly more difficult for me, I find myself needing to be reminder the boundary exists - way more frequently that I feel like I should need to be. I’m grateful for the reminders- but each time I’m also battling the self - destructive pattern that I’m not doing as good as I should. That I’m unintentionally disrespecting whomever is in question. This is tough and also a great personal motivator to do better.

I have personally decided , made the choice to be sober. This started September first, locking in for 30 days. I’m making the decision to see if being sober improves my ability to maintain boundaries. I do love to be - not sober, it opens up a different level for me , my goal is to be able to find that being sober. So sticking with the theme, boundaries are love - I’m doing something different to get different results. Doing better. I’m on day two and my dreams have been wildly beautiful.

Cheers to respect, love and boundaries.

-xo Chris